This post is about the women, about all that constitute her life, that is their birth, childhood, education, days before marriage and days after marriage and all relations fulfilled by her.

In this post I am going to write about the issues and problems being faced by women in her different stages of life, from her birth until she dies.

So getting started from her childhood. If we look in to the history we will come know that in old days the newly born girls were buried to get rid from the girl given curse, as thought. I t was considered as girl’s birth will cost them a lot as when she will grew up she won’t earn so parents always needed boy who will be responsible in future to nourish them and will fulfill their needs. So tradition of inequity is from centuries and it is growing inspite of regressing, despite the world has stepped so far in development and advancement.

If we see today’s world, it is not so much changed for the women as even today they haven’t provided with their rights. Passing through roads, streets we often see 5-6 years old girls wandering to beg for money, for help, for food or having something to sell and get some money. Asked by their masters even to thieve and rob.

Girls of the age, in which they should go school and study, are seen working in homes as servants and nurses. There they are asked for any cheap work to do in return of food and money. Often beaten and throbbed for not doing their jobs as said.

Some how few girls manage to get education and seek jobs. They had to struggle more than men because they are often not given chances because of inequity in society, their intelligence being neglected at once. If they some how get job, they are asked to work for little pay and given more work. Some married women involved in both sides that is those who have home and office both to be maintained are really in big issue. Because if any of the side neglected, she has to face insult form the master that is the office boss or husband in home. She is tortured for job or marriage life.

Regarding health issues there are a few hospitals for the especial treatment of women. Most of the women are unaware of hygiene conditions and proper treatment for their health. Many women from villages are cheated by giving them wrong doses and given expired medicines. At some places the functioning organs are replaced with malfunctioning one which results fatal conditions.

Now-a-days a few issues are getting very serious and common. Some of these are:

Many girls are forced to change their religion and becoming Muslims, not accepting their own religion that is Hinduism. Girls who have left their religion are taken to some illegal places and asked to work there. They are being tortured and killed afterwards.

Many girls were kidnapped, parents were not informed y the kidnapers about anything and few months after their dead bodies were found nearby. Many of the kidnapped one were rapped and killed cruelly.

Still these kind of wrong deeds are going on. No action is taken by police, if parents are asking so, they are abused and asked to sit quietly and keep watching what is going on!

Ladies are even not allowed by their family members to step out from homes, because of the insult and prevailing situation in society. Young girls who somehow managed to go school are also not permitted now. Women working in offices are now asked to sit at homes and live as house wives in remaining life.

Where every religion has placed the women at high rank of respect, today that woman is insulted. It is very sorry to say that the religious leaders who are supposed to spread knowledge about women rights are misguiding the followers.

If this continues and violence against women community continues, it will result in totally destruction of women rights and society.

If you think you are beaten, you are.

If you think you dare, but you do not,

If you like to win, but you think you can’t,

It is almost certain you won’t.

 

If you think you’ll loose, you are lost,

For out in the world we find,

Success begins with a fellows will,

It’s all in the state of mind.

 

You think you are out-classed, you are,

You have got to think high to rise,

You have got to be sure of yourself before,

You can ever win a prize.

Life’s battle do not always is for stronger man, but sooner or later the man who wins is the man who thinks he can.

A few days ago, our professor during class, started to tell us something about handling life matters.

Talking about the mistakes, cheats, forgiveness he quoted few words that are:

• Insult can be forgiven, but cannot be forgotten.

I wrote it down because it inspired me, may be because I was going through such kind of situation.

So I thought to share this here, may some other also learn something from such ordinary but meaningful words.

lET ME TAKE YOU BACK IN OLD DAYS…

WHEN THERE WAS ONLY CHUPAN CHUPAI,

POLKA,

POPCORN,

WATCHING 7:30AM CARTOON BEFORE GOING TO SCHOOL,

7PM NTM CHANNEL,NINJA TURTLES,CAPTIAN PLANNET,THUNDERCATS,

LATE NIGHT SHOWS,

PAKISTAN WINNING CRICKET AND HOCKEY WORLDCUPS,

WE USED TO KNOW EACH AND EVERYONE IN OUR LANE,

CHUP CHUP K KITE FLYING,

OHH HAAN,

Rs:7  KI PEPSI, BUN AND SAMOSAS,

JUBILLE, ECLAIRS, BUUBLE GUMMERS SHOW PILLOW FIGHT, RUNNING TILL YOU ARE OUT OF BREATHE,

BEING TIRED FROM PLAYING,

Rs:10 EIDI,

DECISION MADE BYEENY MEENII MOE,

AFRAID OF DOG BITE,INJECTIONS AND DARKROOM,

ARGUING WITH FRIENDS WHO RUN FASTER!!

AHH!!! WHAT A TRAUMATIC MOMENTS…CAN THE OLD DAYS COME BACK AGAIN, CAN WE ENJOY THE SAME MASTIFUL LIFE AGAIN, CAN WE HAVE ALL SUCH JOYS AGAIN???!!!

                    I want to go back,

When getting high meant on swing.

When drinking meant an apple juice.

When protection meant wearing a helmet.

When mom was home and dad’s shoulders were highest place on earth.

Your worst enemies were your siblings.when the drug you knew of was only the cought syrup.

The only thing that hurt you were skinned knees.

The only things broken were toys.

When goodbyes only meant till tommorrow.

When friends never hurt.

When you could leave everyone and anyone.

I WISH I COULD GO….

Yeah really true, as TRUST is the adding happiness and satisfication in life. It is as a necessity without which we people can’t live as we need someone always to be trusted and we also want to trust other peoples on ourselves for which we keep on trying to do good thing.

It ia a kind of relation which tends to bind people togather, to share their secrets.

The TRUST is which we have on our creator GOD…

when I came there, it was all ridiculous…I was never ready to live there because it seems to be all disgusting like no one here knows the other person, everyone seemed to live for oneself.

On the very first day when we entered hostel, we were just three of friends from the one city which were knowing one another. In hostel the first 15 days we stayed at our senior’s room because at that time there was no vacancy in hostel.

We three go to college, met our batchments,came from different areas. Then a group og 10-15 girls rushed into the canteen with innocent faces and not knowing what to do to order something 4 our empty stomach….in a while the crowd of senior’s group gathered around us and started to tease.

That was college time…then after college we met the same girls in hostel having the same problems what we had which we used to solve those now together. Now we used to sit togather often, talking about the college things and chattering most of the time as we are become friends now.

In hostel what we have to bear is that spoily,sticky and oily food and for getting that food we have to stand in a queue and wait there, while in homes, mom get it herself for us. There is not any proper sanitation…the smelly corridors will kill us one day.

In hostel we have to do everything which our moms used to do in our home. It is really realizing that how our mothers care us…thats why we miss homes in hostels but the same is true for hostel when we are at home because at that time we use to remember friend’s company at late night and contionous non-stop bak bak.

Now we are used to this hostel life which always brings new challenges before us which is a part of life.

One evening I was parked in front of the mall wiping off my car. I had just come from the car wash and was waiting for my wife to get out of work. Coming my way from across the parking lot was, what society would consider, a bum. From the looks of him, he had no car, no home, no clean clothes, and no money. There are times when you feel generous but there are other times that you just don’t want to be bothered. This was one of the “don’t want to be bothered” times.

“I hope he doesn’t ask me for money,” I thought.  He didn’t.  He came and sat on the curb in front of the bus stop and he didn’t look like he could have enough money to even ride the bus.  After a few minutes he spoke.  “That’s a very nice car,” he said.  He was ragged but had an air of dignity around him.

I said, “Thanks,” and continued wiping off my car.

He sat there quietly as I worked. The expected plea for money never came. As the silence between us widened something inside me said, “Ask him if he needs any help.”  I was sure that he would say yes, but I held true to the inner voice.

“Do you need any help?” I asked.  He answered in three simple but profound words that I shall never forget.  We often look for wisdom in great men and women.  We expect it from those of higher learning and accomplishments.  I expected nothing but an outstretched grimy hand.  He spoke three words that shook me.

“Don’t we all?” he said.

I needed help. Maybe not for bus fare or a place to sleep, but I needed help.  I reached in my wallet and gave him not only enough for bus fare but enough to get a warm meal and shelter for the day. Those three little words still ring true. No matter how much you have, no matter how much you have accomplished, you need help too.  No matter how little you have, no matter how loaded you are with problems, even without money or a place to sleep, you can give help.  Even if it’s just a compliment, you can give that.

You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it all. They are waiting on you to give them what they don’t have. A different perspective on life, a glimpse at something beautiful, a respite from daily chaos, that only you through a torn world can see.